I know exactly what you mean. Here's what I did to get out of that rut. 1) find a girlfriend. 2) eat somewhere new once a week or so. 3) joined a gym. work out on alternating days. 4) started taking walks 5) bought about twenty new cookbooks, and make sure I change cuisines on a regular basis and also try out new recipes. 6) I'd you don't have a pet, now might be the time to get one.
A girlfriend is probably the most effective solution. He certainly won't be happy, but boy will he reminisce about the days when he stuck in a rut :-P
Lately I've been going through those feelings every other day first time in my life that I have settled down nice girl don't get to play golf like I used 2 anymore (was a 2 handicap) I work too much 40 hours a week 5 days a week in security which is a very boring job... when my mom was alive and she was feeling depressed I would always say to her there are many people out there that are in much worse shape than you no arms no legs disease riddled bodies it always made her feel better...thank God I'm in the best shape of my life at 62 have never seen a doctor so I always think about how fortunate I am to not have any health issues whatsoever except I might need a root canal maybe. That's going to cost me about a grand.... how much more depressing can you get to spend $1,000 on one tooth instead of buying a thousand dollars worth of razors and soaps and aftershaves, brushes... I've never had a hobby I stuck with I'm trying desperately to maybe get into razor repair and I would love to get a replating set up.. then I can service all you guys razors and such would love to start brush making I would love to open up a shave shop.
At 41 years age, I decided it is a good time now to learn how to swim. Today it will be my first lesson, I'm so excited. I want to swim together with my kids in the summer and hopefully loose some weight. Also I want to build some shelves in the bathroom for my shaving gear. I've never been handy with tools so this is a bit of a project for me. I talked about it with my wife and she asked me to build a small table for her kindergarten. But first I need to buy tools and learn how to use them which is a project of its own. So between all these things I think I'll be pretty busy in the coming months. What I'm saying is that maybe you should try to do something that you always wanted but never found the right time or mood. It's never too late to start.
Good for you it's very important to know how to swim I was 8 years old and I almost drowned even though I knew how to swim I was running out of gas I went under it was lights out instantly... let me tell you something drowning is totally painless it scares the hell out of you but it's totally painless, luckily someone was there to pull me out and resuscitate me
To the original author of this thread: I think you may want to have an evaluation for depression. One of the symptoms being things that you once enjoyed are no longer enjoyable to you, I think it is worth it for you to seek some help. Depression is not something you can snap out of or fix by trying something new and distracting. Feeling hopeless, sad for no apparent reason, worthless, or that people would be better off without you, having little to no energy, sleeping a good part of the day and/or not sleeping at night are also symptoms to pay attention to. If you experience any of these thoughts or feelings, it is important to do something about them.
Are you crazy you want to get him really depressed wait till he sees the bill for a shrink. We can help him here. use that only as a last resort. I knew a guy who was ready to commit suicide he called the suicide line and the guy talked him into buying a Gillette adjustable razor. he felt better the next day. I mean no disrespect
What I've found to be really helpful (at least in my situation) has been to read and listen to lots of self-development material. There's a wealth of great information out there covering this subject, but you have to search for it. Some of the greatest minds on this topic include: Jim Rohn, Tony Robbins, Bob Proctor, Brian Tracy, John Maxwell, Napoleon Hill, Dr. Stephen Covey, and Dr. Eric Thomas (aka ET The Hip Hop Preacher). Hope this helps! Jack
I feel you my friend. Sometimes life looks very bleak. I have been there and back. My best advice for you is to regain your appreciation for everything you have and keep in mind that there are people that care about you. (Just look at the responses here at TSD!) It can be very difficult for family members and friends to be around and support someone exhibiting depression symptoms. (Disclaimer: I am NO doctor) I suggest that you start by acting like things are terrific. Train yourself daily to smile at the wonderful things around you (that you are probably overlooking right now). Our minds are powerful and need to be "exercised". Talk to a health professional. There are answers out there and help too. Life is precious and good. Good luck to you.
Do what I do. Talking about a path is not walking that path. Thinking about life is not living. Lao-tze In short...do, without doing. Wu wei it, dude.
I highly doubt he's suffering from clinical depression. We all get days and weeks and sometimes months of feelings like this ....biorhythms, just feeling down and out, maybe not enough sleep best thing we can do for this guy is make him laugh. chill brother
