This I understand. My father-in-law did that frequently. Like you say, I know it was with good intentions, but it felt somewhat demeaning after a time. There came a point when I had to simply speak to him privately beforehand and ask him to please let me pick up the check that evening. He respected my desire to reciprocate, and I believe he appreciated that I spoke to him privately rather than argue about it at the table.
I dont like when someone holds the door open for me, especially when I’m more than a step away from it, now I have to speed up to get through the door?? I dont think so, when that happens I usually either stop and look at my cell or turn around like I forgot something until they are gone.
dont like the royal ‘we’.. when the waitress comes over and asks how are ‘we’ doing or what are ‘we’ having today. Cause I don’t know how she’s doing, or what she’s having and she’s the waitress, is she implying she wants to sit down and join us for dinner?
hey, ‘real quick’, let me… thats my cue that whatever comes next will take a while to complete. maybe better to say ‘at medium speed’, lets… oh, and at work I hate the ‘hi’ texts without anything following. I usually won’t respond until its followed up with either a comment or question. Don’t just text ‘hi’ if you have a question ask it and let me decide whether or not to or how to answer it.
A couple of stupid cliches about learning annoy me to no end. 1) “Practice makes perfect” It doesn’t. If you practice something without knowing whether or not you are doing it correctly, all you will do is memorize your mistakes. More than once, when I have asked for help with a technique, I have simply been advised to practice & it would improve. (If that had worked, I wouldn’t have needed help.) 2) On a related note is the belief that you will learn from your mistakes. That only works if you know you are making them and have some idea how to correct them.
Even today, there are times when if I make a mistake, I don't know what I did to CAUSE the mistake, and when I correct it, I don't know HOW I corrected it.
It sounds like people are just being nice to you, and you are reacting in a rude way. Why not just walk at the same pace, walk through the door that is being held open, and say "Thank You".
Agreed. I was once asked if I had any good luck rituals to do before an archery competition. My answer was “None. Luck is make-believe. Skill is real.”
really? I should speed up so they can feel good about being nice to me? nah, I prefer to walk at my own pace and am quite capable of opening the door for myself. If I’m right behind them thats another story but nah on the speeding up so the door holder can virtue signal. I respectfully decline your advice.
Hi. Or, since I'm from Texas, "Howdy". Let me just say, it isn't all about you, and your feelings. It has a lot to do with other people going out of their way to be nice to you and others. But, you are twisting that and going out of your way to snub their kind gesture. Scenario: You are in a drive through line, at a coffee joint, and the person in front of you pays for your coffee. Do you A. Pay it forward and buy the next person a coffee too, or B. Get pissed off, take the free coffee, and drive off saying he ruined my day for trying to force you to buy someone else's coffee behind you?
Here’s 2 more and will end it with these, and just to be clear, these are just pet peeves that I have. I’m not looking for advice or criticism on having them. I’m just listing them in response to the thread title. 1) Virtue signalers, especially the most obvious ones and 2) Receiving unsolicited advice or criticism, emphasis on unsolicited.
I had to do that when I was invited over for dinner by the new owners of my Mom's old house. They asked me if there was something I didn't like. All I could think of was a dessert item-bananas. What a sad irony-throughout her life mom always reminded me how much I loved bananas as a little boy. Dunno what happened to make me hate 'em.
