So yesterday I was at a bar with my friends when an old friend came and introduced me to her new boy friend. I went to shake his hand and he gave me a limp weak hand shake. I was honestly offended so I grabbed his wrist with my other hand, looked him straight in the eye, told him thats not a hand shake, and forced him to shake my hand like a man. Then my friends got into a conversation about what all dads should teach their sons. Now my dad left me when I was about 5-6 so I taught all this to myself and it was a rough learning process and some I still don't know well. Here are some of the things we came up with in no specific order. How to shake hands To respect elders and women How to shave (of course) How to grill meat How to throw a ball How to do home improvements and yard work How to change your cars oil How to throw a punch or how to fight The value of a dollar what else would you add to the list.
1. It's okay to cry 2. It's okay to love and how to love 3. You damn sure better learn to laugh 4. Let your friends mock you for being "whipped", you're building a successful and loving and intimate relationship....they're still single.
Not every dad is mormon and this is something that every dad should teach their sons. Im just trying to keep this across the board religions, political views, etc..
Every dad should teach his son to respect women and to treat them as equals; to never take advantage of them and to honor them. Sons should also learn that their accomplishments in life can only be limited by their imaginations and their willingness to work hard for what they want. Some of my dad's best teaching: Work hard and keep your nose clean. You'll never be too old to give your old man a hug. It all comes out in the wash, so don't be afraid to give. I'll always love you.
Marriage means say goodbye to half your stuff. Basic outdoor and survival skills. How to hunt, clean and process game.
I did this to my students when I first started working at my school. My students being Thai very rarely shake hands, they wai (both hands together in a prayer type pose) But now they all know how to shake hands like a man.
Some things you can't learn in a book, or at a bar, or on a forum. This thing you speak of so casually, it's the most important job in the world. My advice is always to work on being the best father and the best man that you possibly can be, and teach your children by example.
Sailor, no offense, but those things are very basic. If your kid knows how to throw a ball or work his car, that's nothing. 1.) First and foremost comes education. Stimulate the boy's brain early. 2.) Sports. Again, the young pick up talents rapidly. 3.) Manners, poise, et al. 4.) Leadership. Think outside the box, inside the box, all over the box. Don't be a sheep.
Responsibility Charity Treat others with respect Harm no one Cherish your family Don't judge, people who are different are still people
BTW, Sailor, that was some swift move you did to the guy you shook hands with, embarrassing him in front of his girlfriend. I would have slapped you all over the bar.
Okay, that's more than a little uncalled for. Please notice the sig line in Sailor's OP: "v/r" (very respectfully). I think he means that and would expect (and should expect) the same in return. It's one thing to have an opinion and to express it. Several guys have done that here. It's quite another to be ridiculously rude, no matter what your opinion. I think you owe him an apology.
