Question for single guys...

And that's how I'd expect it to be. I'd expect wanting to talk on the phone. Nope. Texting. Usually not during the work day, but randomly at other times. I get pics randomly (and don't complain about that! No, not at all!) and I get random texts about what they're doing and so on. I've learned that this is something they want to control, in that they'll initiate it and drop it on their whim, and then restart it up at another point.

Maybe it's a Portland thing, while SF still remains stuck in the 90's and telephones being used for voice only.

 

Does he send any good ones?

This is silicon valley. People don't interact without a screen.

 

I told you that's the hook
she doesn't have to be on your arm to let other girls know of her presence.
believe me, if she is standing there when you get a text she is curious who it's from
and you thought they were at random times

 

She. She. I know you live in SF. She. And yes. And to your next question no.

Which makes me wonder why women want to talk to you, and not text like they do here. I would think that it would be like that in SF as well.

I think that's true a lot of ways, sure.

 

he's only curious from a photographers point of view
you know technique, not content

 

Oh, they already do.
Why, just yesterday a lady who I thought I was getting along with just fine
told me to get _________. (you fill in the blank)

Frightened? Of an attractive woman who wants to be with me?
I thought the objective here was to have a relationship, only with less texting involved.

Geez. I am old.
I've missed the context completely?

 

Invite her out for lunch, coffee, or a movie and show her your charm in person. Then you can bring up the point you're not a big texter. I know exactly what you mean and it seems to be the norm nowadays. I admit, it is nice for times when you don't feel like having a conversation and get a quick message out, but having multiple text conversations can be a bit tiresome.

 

Why are you making me play Match Game? You are no Gene Rayburn!

Oh, lunch, dinner, drinks and more doesn't matter. They can leave my apartment and they'll be texting 30 minutes later. Again, I'm not complaining. I'm just trying to figure out the psychology of this, I guess.

 

I tell you in a sec, I'm getting text messages from my wife.

If you have an iPhone, you can block her at your convenience. Her lovely texts will circle cybervile forever..

 

Mr. Shaverman, et. al.,

If I may, and please let me start by saying that I mean no disrespect to any certain gender or gender group(s). It's quite simple. Women, in general, like to communicate... a lot. Before texting, there were phone calls. Before phone calls, there were letters. And before letters there was, well, in person conversations via speaking.

My point is that women are just doing what they have always been good at, communicating. This is just the latest form of the art. I've been married to the same beautiful woman for the past 22 years and when she's not talking my head off, she's texting my head off. #ILoveYouSweetheart.

 

How is that different than just looking at the phone and then putting the phone back in my pocket? That's an honest question. Don't get me wrong, there's never any kind of time deal here, and nobody's ever gotten mad by not getting a fast enough response. It's not a thing like that. I'm just kind of mystified by it and wondering if other guys are experiencing the same thing.

I think @CyanideMetal has something with it just being a natural progression or evolution in communication.

 

Yes. If my wife texts me, and I don't respond in a timely manner. She's text me again. And her tone changes.

 

If I'm busy, or out somewhere, I don't usually pull my phone out to answer texts. If you need to reach me quickly just call me. most of my friends say I'm a "bad texter" but I'm a good texter when I get around to it. I like texting a lot for things that aren't urgent, its a lot more convenient than calling someone.

long phone calls with women are worse. some women just want to talk for ages, I like to be to the point on the phone.

 

Texting is a government conspiracy,another tool in big brothers tool belt to keep an eye on disitants,terrorist,and all those that use cart razors...hehehe.

 

Yeah, her phone has a whip at the end of it. hahaha That's absolutely not the kind I'm talking about! hahaha

 

Ok Shaverman.

I think I'm grasping the context of your posts now.
You were right.
Being and older/mostly married guy, I shouldn't have responded.

 

My only point was, IF a person, male or female, shows hints of what may be co-dependent tendencies -- and I'm not saying that's the case here, I can't tell for sure -- it's like feeding a Mogwai: it only gets bigger and harder to deal with.

 

You just might be right

 

Are you serious? Are you really asking a group of men to explain how women operate? Personally, I think that any guy who says anything that does not sound like "I don't have a clue" actually doesn't have a clue.