I'm sure this has been posted before but I have a question about if I should use aftershave and also preshave and if I should what kinds do you recommend
There's really no "should" on this matter. Try both, and see what works for you. Some folks use both, some use one or the other, some use none.
Can't put it any better than JoAnna. Some people find it essential, others find it a nice little extra; others couldn't care less. I use it once in a while because it doesn't make a large difference but it does help a wee bit for me.
Personally I like both. A little Noxzema rubbed into my whiskers after a nice steam inna hot towel before and a rinse with cold water an' a wee splash of witch hazel after.
I never use pre, and I always use after. No right or wrong, try both and see what ya think about them.
My husband & I love pre-shave oils. They are also easy & inexpensive to make.http://theshaveden.com/forums/threads/how-to-make-your-own-pre-shave-oil.31132/
I sometimes use pre-shave oil (home made - 40% EVOO, 40% Grape seed oil, 20% Castor Oil, steeped in fresh lemon balm and peppermint leaves), and always use aftershave. Cold water rinse, dash of witch hazel, and aftershave lotion in colder weather, aftershave splash in warmer months.
The main thing is that you hydrate very thoroughly. A shower or simply work in water for at least 15 seconds. I work in and splash on hot water for maybe 20-25 seconds before applying the lather...
Aftershave is more important than pre-shave as you need some alcohol and some moisturizer to help the skin return to its natural ph levels. Pre-shave oil is purely a personal preference but beard prep is critical to a good shave. The most important pre-shave attributes are to clean your shave skin surface of dirt and oils and then use a hot moist towel or a sufficient hot shower to allow the hair to exfoliate and absorb moisture. But, I do echo what others have said, "Experiment constantly until you find a process and the products that work well for you. I would also ask you to judge the quality of your shave a day after you shave. How close a shave did I really get and how good does my skin look will reveal themselves once the face has had time to recover a little. A guide to how well your shave went is to skip a day between shaves and take note of your beard length and the health of your skin. 48 hours should be sufficient to repair and restore your skin. If you can't fully recover within this time frame, you need to re-examine your shave process. A tip I recommend to others is to go to a professional barber and get an old fashioned straight razor shave. Take note of the skin prep, shave technique, and post shave recovery. If the shave is done properly you will now have a decent understanding of how your face should feel........Have fun!