Serious poll question for mature audiences

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Is unfaithfulness ever justified by self-induced intoxication?

  1. Yes

    1 vote(s)
    1.7%
  2. No

    55 vote(s)
    94.8%
  3. Maybe/Depends (explain in comments)

    2 vote(s)
    3.4%
  1. RyX

    RyX DoH!

    Adult subject? Sure. With consideration for the Family Nature of TSD everyone's doing fine.

    That's an adult asking to be treated in a child like manner while "enjoying" adult activities. I've little tolerance for those sort of people.
     
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  2. mrchick

    mrchick Odd, Terrible Avatar

    Well said. I absolutely agree.
     
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  3. Preacher

    Preacher Well-Known Member

    I agree with this. My grandmother used to say that drunk mouths speak sober thoughts. Whenever I did something drunk, it was something I wanted to do sober (just knew better than to do it). I stopped drinking altogether for about 15 years. I realized that I never made a good decision while drunk.
     
  4. Enrico

    Enrico Popcorn

    Very wise grandmother! :)
     
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  5. BigMike

    BigMike Well-Known Member

    Is an affair ever forgivable? Maybe.
    Is alcohol ever an excuse? Certainly not.
     
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  6. brit

    brit in a box

    while an affair maybe forgivable to some ,i dont think i would be one of those who could forgive it.would play on the mind too much.the old "they have done it once,they will do it again" thing..
     
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  7. PanChango

    PanChango Not Cute

    I don't really think so, but I couldn't let it be a shut out.
     
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  8. brit

    brit in a box

    maybe i would have to look at the bigger picture,the circumstances, and how sincere the person is about not repeating it,the condition of relationship etc. i am forgiving but have been known to walk away from blatant betrayal..
     
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  9. Frijolero

    Frijolero Well-Known Member

    Just to be clear, forgive and excuse are two very different concepts. I would forgive because He commands it. But I could not excuse it.
     
  10. brit

    brit in a box

    i agree...
     
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  11. PatP

    PatP Member

    A lot of wisdom has been shared in this thread.
    Forgivable - yes (in the appropriate circumstance... and it would be hard to do... remember that sometimes the right thing to do is difficult)
    Justifiable - never
     
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  12. Shaver X

    Shaver X Well-Known Member

    No, unfaithfulness is not justified, by intoxication or anything else. Anybody in a relationship who wants to play the field should end their current relationship first.
     
  13. FatherofSquirrel

    FatherofSquirrel A right jolly old elf

    Yeah. I did too.
     
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  14. gorgo2

    gorgo2 geezerhood

    Forgiveness is kind of a side topic but even though I know what God's word says on the matter (those who are saved are to forgive, if for no other reason, because we have been forgiven so very much...everything, in fact, Colossians 2:13), a destroyed marriage is a rather hard proposition. Vows were broken and I take that very seriously.

    Forgive? Yes, even if the offender is not repentant. I could see myself doing that, in time.

    Reconcile and continue to trust in order to maintain the marriage? I honestly don't know if I could.

    But while I hope I'll never have to find out, I do know that the grace of God is far stronger than I...and I also know that I am to be an ambassador of that grace, perhaps just where it's hardest to extend.

    Still, as Paul said more than once, "God forbid."
     
  15. gorgo2

    gorgo2 geezerhood

    The more I think about it, mitigated is the correct word. If that leads anyone to change their vote, feel free.

    Mitigate: to lessen the severity of an offense or mistake.
     
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  16. brit

    brit in a box

    i tried to reconcile in a previous marriage.didn t work out,will i try again? hope to never have to..
     
  17. Don Logan

    Don Logan New Member

    Accusing a partner of cheating, is attempted slavery.

    Marriage, is an imprudent business arrangement.

    Poll is void.

    Google "self-ownership"
     
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  18. Frijolero

    Frijolero Well-Known Member

    So you're happy with Rosy then? Fair enough.
     
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  19. Enrico

    Enrico Popcorn

    He'll never be lonely. :happy097:
     
  20. Don Logan

    Don Logan New Member

    Never had a relationship. I prefer hookers and blow :happy102:

     
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